We are all subject to perpetual doubt. There isn’t a single one of us in the 21st century who can make a decision and be satisfied with it. Irrespective of how long you have been together, doubting the quality of your romance is quite natural. You may have been together for 7 years, but you can still be unconvinced with his ‘I do’ on the marriage aisle. So, what is the key to understanding if he is ‘the one’?
1. HE SUPPORTS YOU IN YOUR ENDEAVORS
A good partner will always want the best for you. He SO should be the first one present in your show, the one screaming the loudest from the sidelines. He should hold the power and the desire to help you achieve your true potential.
2. HE IS THE CALMNESS-FACTOR
After a day of unforgiving corporate deadlines, you should be able to come home to a pair of welcoming arms. We all have a significant load of storms that we pass through. Our partner should always be the saving grace.
3. HE CONTINUES TO ASK YOU OUT
The cutest feeling is knowing that you partner still has a crush on you. It means that he hasn’t taken you for granted, and is willing to invest the time and energy required to win you over, every single day.
4. HE IS HARDWORKING
Dedication is a huge point of attraction. If you marry somebody who is a slacker, then the laziness will eventually get to you. Living with somebody who is a go-getter, pushes you to do better in life.
5. HE MAKES TIME FOR THE TWO OF YOU
We all have really busy careers. But what is any of that worth if you do not have the liberty to spend some time with your own family? While earning money, or hanging out with the boy gang is important, he should be able to clear a part of his everyday schedule and reserve it solely for you.
6. HE IS GREAT TO HIS MOTHER
Always remember that men don’t have behavioral exceptions regarding women. If he treats his mother or sister horribly, without any reason, yet acts sweet with you, then know that it won’t last. You will eventually end up in the same spot as them.
7. HE PRAISES YOU OFTEN
Validation feels nice, especially if it is coming from the love of your life. This shows that he actually cares about you, is proud of you, and that your life matters to him. There is nothing more adorable than finding a partner who can feel happy for the smallest of goals you achieve. Must read: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex
8. HE IS NOT SELFISH
Co-existing in a marriage involves having to share almost everything. This includes Nutella, chips, happiness, pain, anger, et all. You do not want to end up with a narcissistic prick, and sentence your entire life to endless jabbering from the other end.
9. HE KEEPS REMINDING YOU OF HIS LOVE
I am positively sure that you do not need the affirmation. If you’re marrying somebody, then I’m pretty sure that you already know about their love for you. However, it doesn’t hurt to say it. Get yourself a man who feels his heart beat faster every time he sees you, and does not shy away from saying it out loud.
10. HE PRIORITIZES YOU
Your husband has to be your best friend first. While it is unhealthy to wish for him to cater to your demands all around the clock, it is quite adorable to see him choose you over other things. He should be able to make you feel valued and important.
11. HE MAKES SPONTANEOUS PLANS
This is important in order to keep the relationship healthy, and happy. After a tough day, or a ruthless fight, I hope he brings you flowers. I hope he wakes you up with breakfast in bed, and a trip to the best restaurants on nights when you’re feeling low.
12. HE ACCEPTS HIS MISTAKES
It is so attractive to find a man without his toxic masculinity. Your partner should be able to put his ego aside and be willing to solve problems. Marriages fall apart because partners stand their ground and become unwilling to adjust. As long as you both can address and rectify issues, your marriage will be nothing short of a Disney fairytale.